Good essay! As a boy, I never heard anyone tell me that people picked on me because they liked me. I expect they had trouble at home, which is a very common cause for bullying. My mom actually met the bully from my third grade class this last year (I don't know how she meets these people and finds out their names) and he confirmed that he was very unhappy at home, but he had turned his life around and was now well-adjusted. A lot of kids have stress at home, and they find out that they can release their anger through bullying. Furthermore they often feel unloved and may be neglected, and they find that acting out in a negative way gets them attention every time. A child starved for attention will get it any way they can. That's my observation on the situation.
I pick on people I like, not necessarily in the romantic sense. I don't know why. It's kind of fun and playful and harmless, in general. I tend to kind of test the waters and back off if it seems like they don't like it. I never really picked on you because you didn't seem to receptive to it. Then again you're a hard person for me to read. Heh! When it becomes physical, then it's definitely gone too far. Kids often don't know when to stop and take things too far. It happens. It's part of learning what these borders are. I'm still have trouble with getting too rambunctuous. :P
Dismissing people bullying you as "He just likes you!" kind of makes me angry. I don't think parents understand how harmful it is to their children when they're dismissive of their concerns. It ruins trust between them, and the kids feel like they can't rely on their parents to help them. I can't believe you had to go to the emergency room and that nothing was apparently done! That was definitely the angry kind of bullying and not the "I don't know how to express my feelings" kind. I can only imagine the long term harm this did to your psyche. Anyways, just my perspective. Hope I didn't get too personal, there!
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Date: 2012-02-17 01:30 am (UTC)I pick on people I like, not necessarily in the romantic sense. I don't know why. It's kind of fun and playful and harmless, in general. I tend to kind of test the waters and back off if it seems like they don't like it. I never really picked on you because you didn't seem to receptive to it. Then again you're a hard person for me to read. Heh! When it becomes physical, then it's definitely gone too far. Kids often don't know when to stop and take things too far. It happens. It's part of learning what these borders are. I'm still have trouble with getting too rambunctuous. :P
Dismissing people bullying you as "He just likes you!" kind of makes me angry. I don't think parents understand how harmful it is to their children when they're dismissive of their concerns. It ruins trust between them, and the kids feel like they can't rely on their parents to help them. I can't believe you had to go to the emergency room and that nothing was apparently done! That was definitely the angry kind of bullying and not the "I don't know how to express my feelings" kind. I can only imagine the long term harm this did to your psyche. Anyways, just my perspective. Hope I didn't get too personal, there!